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Shirley Jean Sidebotham, age 77, of Middleville, MI went home to be with her Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, on April 21, 2020. She was surrounded by her children.

Shirley is remembered as a wonderful wife, mother, and a very special grandmother and great grandma. She was a genuinely sweet, selfless person with a servant heart. Family and her dog were the center of Shirley’s life and she loved spending time with them. She enjoyed fishing and playing games (marbles and cards). She especially loved sitting in the sun on the beach with her toes in the sand.

She was preceded in death by her husband of 56 years, Phillip Sidebotham, her brother, William Boonstra, Jr., brother-in-law, Carroll Billett, her great grandson, Foster Grant Henderson, and her parents, William and Francis Boonstra.

She is survived by her children, Ray Sidebotham (Karen), Cindy Ordway (Dave), and Kim Finkbeiner (Scott); grandchildren, Ellen and Evan Sidebotham, David Ordway (Kiley), Emma Henderson (Corey), Aaron Ordway, Megan McKeown (Michael), and Trever Finkbeiner (Molly); seven great grandchildren; sisters and brothers, Jan Visser, Darlene Billett, Martin Boonstra, Melvin Boonstra, Patricia Sines, Rose Duemler, Francis Huff, and Sherry Poll; sister -in-law, Sandy Mazzola and their families.

The family extends a very special thank you to the staff of Spectrum Health Hospice and the Lemmen-Holton Cancer Center.

Memorial services will be scheduled for a later date.

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Cremation arrangements are entrusted to Michigan Cremation & Funeral Care, Grand Rapids.


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  1. Megan McKeown on April 23, 2020 at 5:36 pm

    My Grandma and Grandpa always felt like home to me. So much about each of them is etched into my memory. The way their house smelled, the way they greeted me at the door, the way my Grandma came home from work, took a seat in the same rocking chair and rubbed her feet together, how my Grandpa brought her coffee in the same mug every day, and the way she talked on the phone- the things she said, and just the “way” she said them. I spent a lot of time watching her and absorbing how she did things. I used to sit in her kitchen and watch her roll out dough for homemade noodles and stir gravy until there were no lumps. She used to help us with our homework after school and buy bags of apples and carrots just to throw to my horse (that they let me keep in their back yard). She’d do just about anything for us. After she spent a day cooking a big meal for her family (which she did frequently) she was always the last one to sit down to eat. She didn’t make her plate until she was sure everyone had enough food on theirs. That’s the way she lived her life. She loved her family wholly and completely and with a servants heart. She always told me how pretty I was and never ceased to make me feel special. She treated me like her daughter and frequently called me “Kim” by mistake. She taught me to never take anything for granted and liked to remind me, in her words, “how good I have it”. She told me to always hug and kiss my husband because you’ll wish you had more when he isn’t here (she missed my Grandpa like crazy). She never did anything halfway, but instead wholly and completely and “how it should be done”. More recently, she had been helping me some at home with my laundry. Sometimes I’d come home from work and she would still be at my house. I’d tell her that she didn’t have to stay and I could finish up but she always refused and would say, “I finish my jobs”. I hope that so many things about her are also inside of me. We named our daughter after her and lovingly call her “Jean” just the way my Grandpa would call my Grandma. She finished her job here on earth. She lived it fully and completely with joy, love, humility and a heart of servitude.

    Gram, our world is a little less bright without you in it but what you left with each of us will live on until we can all be united again with Jesus in Heaven. Miss you so much already. Love ya Gram – Meg

  2. Steve Haskill on April 24, 2020 at 10:14 am

    I truly am sorry. I remember Shirley fondly from my D&W days (you, too, Ray). My heart goes out to you.

  3. Mark Kolanowski on April 24, 2020 at 4:54 pm

    Our condolences to Kim, Scott and family. You are in our thoughts and prayers. From all of us at Highpoint Community Bank.

  4. Deborah Wert on April 24, 2020 at 6:19 pm

    Cindy and extended family…so many of you. You had such a special mom, grandma, sister etc. What a comfort to know you will see her again and know she’s w/the man she loved and the Savior she loved also.

  5. Sandra Poland and family on April 27, 2020 at 9:14 am

    Our family wish to send all the Boonstra and Sidebotham families our heart felt Sympathy and comfort during this time we have fond memories of time spent during our younger years when all our children spent time together (motorcycles, cars etc.) those were fun times and I still like to reminisce back to those times. God bless.

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